We experience the most personal growth when there is a beautiful balance of support and challenge. When we are pushed from our comfort zones and propelled to fulfill our highest values, while at the same time offered support, guidance and wisdom by those close to us, the full use of our faculties come alive.

Too much challenge and we suffer overwhelm and self-doubt. And on the other hand, too much support and we get lazy and make excuses as to why we haven’t stepped closer towards our goals.

In the words of actor Tim Robbins who plays Andy Dufresne in The Shawshank Redemption, “Get busy living, or get busy dying.”

When you have a specific goal or intention you are working towards, it’s important to align yourself with the ideal mix for you to have the best chance at success. And to be clear, my version of success is a state of joy, inspiration and greater self-awareness brought upon us from goals that challenge us.

The ideal mix I am referring to when working towards fulfillment and success are:

  • Having a clear, specific goal that as I mentioned challenges you and that you’re inspired by. As Dr. John DeMartini would say, “Your greatest voids produce your highest values.”
  • Surrounding yourself with the right people that are invested in your personal growth. Supportive family members, friends, colleagues, teachers and mentors.
  • Optimizing your environment to help you have the best chance of achieving your goal. For example – if your goal is to lose 20kg so you can be a more playful, healthy and energetic mother – it’s best not to have a fridge and pantry full of junk food.
  • Upgrading your skills. What else to you need to learn, model or experience in order to take you a step closer to achieving your dreams?
  • Strategizing your actions. Implementing a plan that promotes daily inspired action where you’re enthusiasm, creativity, commitment, discipline, focus and talent drive you to success.
  • Mastering your psychology. Being coached, mentored or learning how to manage and breakthrough limited beliefs, fears, doubts and insecurities. When you plant new beliefs and change your state that aligns with your inspired mission, you put yourself in the drivers seat to live your dreams.
  • Trust in your vision and believe in yourself. No matter what happens and what hurdles life throws at you, you have the courage and strength to stay the course. There is no such thing as an overnight success. The brilliant aspect of challenge are the lessons you will learn, so by the time you reach the top of your mountain you will stay there – wiser, richer and more fulfilled than you’ve ever been.

How committed are you to living your dreams?

From what I have experienced in my own life and coaching practice is that the people that listen to the voice within them and make the active choice to live the life they’ve imagined, usually succeed in healing and/or changing their lives.

The ones that stay small in fear and the merry-go-round of the conditioned mind, stay in their comfort zones and sit frustrated on the excuses train – all stops to Regret Town!

If you believe it’s going to take a long time to live your dreams then you’re probably right. However, if you believe that each step towards your dream is beautifully integrated and purposeful – then you’re living the dream already. You’re one step ahead of the game and embracing the ideal mix of support and challenge that’s going to get you where you want to go much faster than you think.

In the words of actor Tim Robbins who plays Andy Dufresne in The Shawshank Redemption, “Get busy living, or get busy dying.”

Big love,

Marshall