I always associated my identity with my physical form. I think this is the case for most people, with the exception of the consciously evolved. Going through a loss I had major difficulty forming or reforming my physical identity. I was uncomfortable in my own skin. I felt awkward especially in any social atmosphere. This physical identity of mine had taken a beating. I could no longer take refuge in this safe place. And this is what can happen when you experience a heavy loss. You may feel a melting of identity and take refuge in other areas, such as the mind. But it can also lead to the realization of your inner-being – the essence of who you are. Once I made that discovery, there was no going back. In some respects it was like hearing the news that your whole life to date had been a lie. The physical foundations of my world crumbled in an instant, like an earthquake causing the solid footing beneath my feet to crack wide open. I had nowhere else to look except up to the heaven’s for help, metaphorically speaking. Literally speaking, the heaven within me – my essence identity is what rose up within me. […]

Are You Falling in Love With Your Own Suffering?